Comments on: 10 Easy Ways to Talk with Your Daughter about Sex

By: Kat

Kat — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 04:24:09 +0000

You are awesome! I agree with you 100 percent. I have done every thing like you up to this point. I’m giving my nine year old girl the book It’s So Amazing tomorrow night. You are appreciated.

By: machelle

machelle — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 02:06:01 +0000

Thank you for posting some really good ideas for “bringing the subject of sex” up. I have a 10 yr old (which has a almost 12 yr old friend with no idea how serious/sacred this issue is) that she is getting sexual ideas from. Your information will for sure help me to guide my daughter the right way!

By: maria (farm country kitchen)

maria (farm country kitchen) — Sat, 24 Dec 2011 13:37:29 +0000

Dear Amanda, curiosity is a wonderful thing and you should never feel ashamed about it! When you turn 14 (for some girls earlier, and others later) it is totally natural and normal to start thinking about sex because your body is becoming prepared for womanhood and motherhood through lots of crazy hormones surging through your body. It’s normal. Natural. And there is nothing wrong about it. I have said to my daughters that I would much rather have them “experimenting” (ie. masturbating) with themselves, then having sex with boys before they are ready or prepared. PLUS, sex with boys who don’t know what they are doing is TOTALLY unsatisfying. Trust me, I know. Play with yourself. Learn what you like and don’t like. Be careful. And then, when you are ready and in love, share yourself and your knowledge of yourself with the person you love. He or she will be very grateful to you.

Thanks for your curiosity!

By: Amanda

Amanda — Sat, 24 Dec 2011 08:28:43 +0000

Im 14 and Lately I’ve been really curious about sex. And this probably sounds bad, but I want to have sex. I know I should wait, but why all of a sudden am I wanting to have sex? Is it normal to “experiment” with myself? Because I’m considering that to keep from losing my virginity and regretting it. Please answer my questions please.
Oh and I would ask my mom but it gets
Really awkward because when I ask her things she gives me a disapproving look, and barley answers. I don’t like feeling judged for being curious…

By: Journo

Journo — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 19:48:09 +0000

Ann Landers has always had a simple suggestion for children that were afraid to bring up a subject to their parents directly. Clip this column out (in this case, print it), and hand it to them.

By: crystal

crystal — Mon, 12 Sep 2011 04:28:13 +0000

I am trying to find ways to talk to my adopted mom about sex. She already told me that I can talk to her about boys any time I want to. Should I talk to her about boys and than slowly go into the conversation about sex?

By: Jessica

Jessica — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 16:51:59 +0000

Thanks I will take that into my mk ind and try to do my best with her.

By: maria (farm country kitchen)

maria (farm country kitchen) — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 16:46:40 +0000

Dear Jessica,

Of course expect embarrasment on both parts (you and your daughter) but try your best not to let that stop you. Even if she doesn’t act like it, she will appreciate that you had the courage to open the door. Find a safe place, like in her bedroom or in the car where it’s quiet and just start in…”hey honey, I know this is awkward to talk about, but I really want to talk to you about what to expect and look out for regarding how your body is changing, and sex in general, because I love you and want to make sure that you are aware and safe and protected and not afraid to ever come talk to me!”

That should get things started…

By: Jessica

Jessica — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 16:24:26 +0000

Hello All:
I am at that point in parenting when it is time for the period/sex talk with my 9 yr old. I am so not sure how to get things started as I was never talked to about this. It was just left for me to figure out on my own. I really don’t know how to spark up the conversation with her. She seems so small and immature to be getting ready for this. But she is starting to fill out and I am afraid that if I don’t give her some info then she will be starting her period and flipping out because she dosen’t know. Can someone please tell me how to get started, even though the tips seem helpful I am still unsure of how WE both will react.

By: maria (farm country kitchen)

maria (farm country kitchen) — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 11:32:59 +0000

Dear Cintia, based on the perpetual popularity of this blog post, I’ve been thinking about writing a book about this topic. The problem is, most of the good books out there are geared more towards girls about to start menstruation. “Period” is one of them. I’ll see what I can find! I still think the most important thing is not to make her feel ashamed of her body or budding sexuality at that (or any) age.