Comments on: Beyoncé and the True Cost of Beauty http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/beyonce-and-the-true-cost-of-beauty/ Cooking up trouble, dishing out advice. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 17:43:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Peep http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/beyonce-and-the-true-cost-of-beauty/comment-page-1/#comment-16420 Peep Wed, 17 Nov 2010 23:31:43 +0000 http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/?p=1059#comment-16420 I'm with Becky, who wrote "Enjoy Life Natural girls and the Painted faces too!!" Women, please stop treating other women who have different beauty values like The Enemy. These women are not pitiful and superficial as some of you portray them to be. Nor are any of you superior to them. These high-maintenance women may get more attention than you do, yet let's not ridicule them for being who they are or simply meeting the requirements of their high profile careers. I find all of the superior attitudes I've been reading here to say far more about the writers than about folks like Beyonce and her kin. I'm a natural gal myself, mostly because I'm lazy and my lifestyle doesn't really require a lot of glitz and glamour. Thank heavens and lucky me! How much work it must take to be a celebrity commodity with such outrageous job requirements. I sure don't envy these women's lives anywhere near as much as I do their portfolio balance. What a luxury it must be for celebrity women to hide from the paparazzi, take off their makeup, and don any old comfy clothes they wish. That being said, I'm 100% behind these women and their choices. I'm not about to criticize the hours they spend with their makeup artists and hair salons. Nor will I talk smack about their stilettos, cosmetic surgeries, and workout schedules. These are job requirements for these women if they want to remain in The Industry. Please be tolerant of the choices of other women, even if you don't share their values. To me, that sort of grace is what true beauty is all about. I’m with Becky, who wrote “Enjoy Life Natural girls and the Painted faces too!!”

Women, please stop treating other women who have different beauty values like The Enemy. These women are not pitiful and superficial as some of you portray them to be. Nor are any of you superior to them.

These high-maintenance women may get more attention than you do, yet let’s not ridicule them for being who they are or simply meeting the requirements of their high profile careers. I find all of the superior attitudes I’ve been reading here to say far more about the writers than about folks like Beyonce and her kin.

I’m a natural gal myself, mostly because I’m lazy and my lifestyle doesn’t really require a lot of glitz and glamour. Thank heavens and lucky me!

How much work it must take to be a celebrity commodity with such outrageous job requirements. I sure don’t envy these women’s lives anywhere near as much as I do their portfolio balance. What a luxury it must be for celebrity women to hide from the paparazzi, take off their makeup, and don any old comfy clothes they wish.

That being said, I’m 100% behind these women and their choices. I’m not about to criticize the hours they spend with their makeup artists and hair salons. Nor will I talk smack about their stilettos, cosmetic surgeries, and workout schedules. These are job requirements for these women if they want to remain in The Industry.

Please be tolerant of the choices of other women, even if you don’t share their values. To me, that sort of grace is what true beauty is all about.

]]> By: Jen http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/beyonce-and-the-true-cost-of-beauty/comment-page-1/#comment-15977 Jen Fri, 08 Oct 2010 03:23:47 +0000 http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/?p=1059#comment-15977 Maria, I think you look beautiful. Real beauty comes from the inside and shows through your smile. Last year I stopped using commercial personal care products to avoid the chemicals. I did choose to continue to color my hair with natural henna since I was going red anyway. About a month ago, I also stopped wearing makeup (which I wore only occasionally anyway) because I went to put it on one day before a meeting & it seemed so disgusting to me that I just couldn't do it. I've focused my thoughts to affirm that i am beautiful just as I am & just the other day my mom commented to me on how good my skin looked. (I'm 42 & had been noticing the signs of aging). Your thoughts impact your beauty far more than piling on products ever could! Maria, I think you look beautiful. Real beauty comes from the inside and shows through your smile. Last year I stopped using commercial personal care products to avoid the chemicals. I did choose to continue to color my hair with natural henna since I was going red anyway. About a month ago, I also stopped wearing makeup (which I wore only occasionally anyway) because I went to put it on one day before a meeting & it seemed so disgusting to me that I just couldn’t do it. I’ve focused my thoughts to affirm that i am beautiful just as I am & just the other day my mom commented to me on how good my skin looked. (I’m 42 & had been noticing the signs of aging). Your thoughts impact your beauty far more than piling on products ever could!

]]> By: Ria http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/beyonce-and-the-true-cost-of-beauty/comment-page-1/#comment-13087 Ria Wed, 23 Jun 2010 23:26:32 +0000 http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/?p=1059#comment-13087 Beyonce "might" look good appearance wise but she lacks versatility.Her look is always the same. Blonde wigs, heels, short skimpy outfits. She does not have that true inner sex appeal like Halle Berry, Madonna, or Angelina Jolie. This might be because she lacks a personality. So she makes up for it with her high maintenance appearance. Frankly I find her very over done and mindless. It's like she has no aura. That is why she doesn't have the true love & respect in the industry like Aaliyah who was a successful singer and actress. Alicia keys and Jennifer Hudson are both very sexy and beautiful women whom can sing and act very well. They have that respect that beyonce doesn't have because they both have a more classy reserved way about themselves that doesn't cry desperate attention as in beyonce's case. Bottom line is beyonce is a very good singer and dancer but in a Vegas show girl type way. A pretty lady to look at but that all. Her clothing line reflects that as well. Glamy, trashy, shiny & mindless. Beyonce “might” look good appearance wise but she lacks versatility.Her look is always the same. Blonde wigs, heels, short skimpy outfits. She does not have that true inner sex appeal like Halle Berry, Madonna, or Angelina Jolie. This might be because she lacks a personality. So she makes up for it with her high maintenance appearance. Frankly I find her very over done and mindless. It’s like she has no aura. That is why she doesn’t have the true love & respect in the industry like Aaliyah who was a successful singer and actress. Alicia keys and Jennifer Hudson are both very sexy and beautiful women whom can sing and act very well. They have that respect that beyonce doesn’t have because they both have a more classy reserved way about themselves that doesn’t cry desperate attention as in beyonce’s case. Bottom line is beyonce is a very good singer and dancer but in a Vegas show girl type way. A pretty lady to look at but that all. Her clothing line reflects that as well. Glamy, trashy, shiny & mindless.

]]> By: Selena http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/beyonce-and-the-true-cost-of-beauty/comment-page-1/#comment-11752 Selena Thu, 03 Jun 2010 16:44:38 +0000 http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/?p=1059#comment-11752 I must say I just stumbled onto this website because I was impressed with the fact that beyonce can dance so well in heels and my daughter said she saw an interview where she stated that she wears heels all the time so the curious cat that I am I went scouting to find if it were true. Having said all that I do agree with those of you who said that a woman should take pride in her appearance wether you are the type to go all out or the type to keep it to a minimum. I think however that the motivation behind a good appearance should stem from wanting to look and feel good for oneself not for someone else. And also I truly believe that if we learn to accept ourselves flaws or no flaws we will be stronger more confident women. Really that is what this whole blog is about. Also along with the outward beauty we must also work on the inner beauty learning to love beyond ourselves and living at peace with others. So ladies, women, mothers, wives, go forth and set a blazing trail of individualized beauty both outward and inward and the rest will fall in place. I must say I just stumbled onto this website because I was impressed with the fact that beyonce can dance so well in heels and my daughter said she saw an interview where she stated that she wears heels all the time so the curious cat that I am I went scouting to find if it were true. Having said all that I do agree with those of you who said that a woman should take pride in her appearance wether you are the type to go all out or the type to keep it to a minimum. I think however that the motivation behind a good appearance should stem from wanting to look and feel good for oneself not for someone else. And also I truly believe that if we learn to accept ourselves flaws or no flaws we will be stronger more confident women. Really that is what this whole blog is about. Also along with the outward beauty we must also work on the inner beauty learning to love beyond ourselves and living at peace with others. So ladies, women, mothers, wives, go forth and set a blazing trail of individualized beauty both outward and inward and the rest will fall in place.

]]> By: Janice http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/beyonce-and-the-true-cost-of-beauty/comment-page-1/#comment-9374 Janice Wed, 24 Feb 2010 04:04:38 +0000 http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/?p=1059#comment-9374 Shame on you ladies! Especially you Laura! You guys are jealous of Beyonce! Let's face it she's under 30 and she looks fabulous! Whether she wears high heels or not! When will we as women learn to lift each other up instead of tearing each other down? I can still remember turning heads in my 20's. Those days are long gone now that I 'm in my fifties but I still take pride in my appearance, with or without make-up! Beyonce is African-American, I can assure you that she doesn't need layers of make-up to be beautiful, (We have it like that!) What we women of all ages and races should do is never stop taking care of ourselves because our men still like a pretty woman, nobody WHAT he tells you! I know, because last weekend, while out with my man, I managed to turn a few heads myself. Thank God there were no twenty-somethings around to steal my thunder!! Shame on you ladies! Especially you Laura! You guys are jealous of Beyonce! Let’s face it she’s under 30 and she looks fabulous! Whether she wears high heels or not! When will we as women learn to lift each other up instead of tearing each other down? I can still remember turning heads in my 20′s. Those days are long gone now that I ‘m in my fifties but I still take pride in my appearance, with or without make-up!
Beyonce is African-American, I can assure you that she doesn’t need layers of make-up to be beautiful, (We have it like that!) What we women of all ages and races should do is never stop taking care of ourselves because our men still like a pretty woman, nobody WHAT he tells you! I know, because last weekend, while out with my man, I managed to turn a few heads myself. Thank God there were no twenty-somethings around to steal my thunder!!

]]> By: Arian http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/beyonce-and-the-true-cost-of-beauty/comment-page-1/#comment-9341 Arian Mon, 22 Feb 2010 13:16:11 +0000 http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/?p=1059#comment-9341 I too was FLOORED by Beyonce's comment in People (yep guilty pleasure for me too). Obviously it hurts to wear heels for extended periods of time- I did it two days ago to go out to dinner and a show-my feet were killling me by the end of the evening- BUT I felt beautiful and sexy and confident AGGGGGG!!! I do not have any productive thoughts about this cultural dichotomy except to say that I participate rarely and am married to a man who tries very very hard to avoid "drooling" or looking at the women on TV (as we have not TV maybe this is easier for him), etc. and comparing them to me-Our mutual goal is to tune out those impossible, corporate, depressing ideas about sexuality and beauty (both male and female) particularly when it comes to our own relationship. I too was FLOORED by Beyonce’s comment in People (yep guilty pleasure for me too). Obviously it hurts to wear heels for extended periods of time- I did it two days ago to go out to dinner and a show-my feet were killling me by the end of the evening- BUT I felt beautiful and sexy and confident AGGGGGG!!! I do not have any productive thoughts about this cultural dichotomy except to say that I participate rarely and am married to a man who tries very very hard to avoid “drooling” or looking at the women on TV (as we have not TV maybe this is easier for him), etc. and comparing them to me-Our mutual goal is to tune out those impossible, corporate, depressing ideas about sexuality and beauty (both male and female) particularly when it comes to our own relationship.

]]> By: Sharon R. http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/beyonce-and-the-true-cost-of-beauty/comment-page-1/#comment-9255 Sharon R. Fri, 19 Feb 2010 02:36:00 +0000 http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/?p=1059#comment-9255 I was looking at a picture of your mother yesterday and thinking about how stunningly beautiful she was. Like my mother - she always had her hair done, her makeup on, and the jewelery to compliment her attire. I know that when I go to visit my mom, the first thing she says to me is - you need to put some makeup on, I shouldn't have to look at you like this. Ugh... There was a day that I wore makeup all the time. Now I wear moisturizer faithfully everyday; then I throw on 4 (little itty bitty) dabs of face makeup; a swirl of blush on each cheek; and then I hope for the best that it stays there long enough for my co-workers not to feel offened as my mother does when looking at me. Sometimes I will put green eyeshadow on to represent my son who was in Iraq in the Army, but he's home now - so I don't feel like I'm taking something away from him (like he's really going to care); I will where mascara - I put it on 3 feet away from the mirror without glasses - and you can just imagine how much it does for my lashes. I do wash and dry my hair everyday; I also color it either from a box or sometime the splurge to Fantastic Sams, or the bigger splurge Lords & Ladies. But you can count all those times every year on one hand. My mother's hair is a beautiful white, as was both my grandmother's hair, and I believe that someday - I too will have a head of beautiful white hair. I had gastric bypass surgery 2 1/2 years ago - so my hair is thinning, I've lost 146 lbs and there are areas where that other person "skin" sags on me. But what you see is what you get. It's just me - and I really do look forwad to the day I wear no makeup, I don't wash & dry my hair everyday and I am looking forward to the white hair that comes from those wonderful ladies in my life. When that day comes I will be just as happy as today. Maria, I can't imagine you any different than you are today - an amazing, strong woman, a fabulous wife - who loves to cook, (my husbands dream wife) and a mother of 3 beautiful daughters. Whether you are out in your bare feet, or your flats; your hair is flat ironed or frizzy - you will always rock, or boot-skoot-n-boogie. I was looking at a picture of your mother yesterday and thinking about how stunningly beautiful she was. Like my mother – she always had her hair done, her makeup on, and the jewelery to compliment her attire. I know that when I go to visit my mom, the first thing she says to me is – you need to put some makeup on, I shouldn’t have to look at you like this. Ugh… There was a day that I wore makeup all the time. Now I wear moisturizer faithfully everyday; then I throw on 4 (little itty bitty) dabs of face makeup; a swirl of blush on each cheek; and then I hope for the best that it stays there long enough for my co-workers not to feel offened as my mother does when looking at me. Sometimes I will put green eyeshadow on to represent my son who was in Iraq in the Army, but he’s home now – so I don’t feel like I’m taking something away from him (like he’s really going to care); I will where mascara – I put it on 3 feet away from the mirror without glasses – and you can just imagine how much it does for my lashes. I do wash and dry my hair everyday; I also color it either from a box or sometime the splurge to Fantastic Sams, or the bigger splurge Lords & Ladies. But you can count all those times every year on one hand. My mother’s hair is a beautiful white, as was both my grandmother’s hair, and I believe that someday – I too will have a head of beautiful white hair. I had gastric bypass surgery 2 1/2 years ago – so my hair is thinning, I’ve lost 146 lbs and there are areas where that other person “skin” sags on me. But what you see is what you get. It’s just me – and I really do look forwad to the day I wear no makeup, I don’t wash & dry my hair everyday and I am looking forward to the white hair that comes from those wonderful ladies in my life. When that day comes I will be just as happy as today. Maria, I can’t imagine you any different than you are today – an amazing, strong woman, a fabulous wife – who loves to cook, (my husbands dream wife) and a mother of 3 beautiful daughters. Whether you are out in your bare feet, or your flats; your hair is flat ironed or frizzy – you will always rock, or boot-skoot-n-boogie.

]]> By: Donna in Delaware http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/beyonce-and-the-true-cost-of-beauty/comment-page-1/#comment-9249 Donna in Delaware Thu, 18 Feb 2010 18:38:14 +0000 http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/?p=1059#comment-9249 Maria, when I saw your spot on the Martha Stewart Show a few weeks ago, I thought that you were very pretty and natural, but had an inner beauty that came through. Alluding to what Gina said, there has always been a doubled standard for beauty for women and men, hopefully, sometime in the future, we all will be individually judged on more than just physical beauty, but inner and mental beauty as well. Maria, when I saw your spot on the Martha Stewart Show a few weeks ago, I thought that you were very pretty and natural, but had an inner beauty that came through. Alluding to what Gina said, there has always been a doubled standard for beauty for women and men, hopefully, sometime in the future, we all will be individually judged on more than just physical beauty, but inner and mental beauty as well.

]]> By: gina http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/beyonce-and-the-true-cost-of-beauty/comment-page-1/#comment-9247 gina Thu, 18 Feb 2010 16:02:26 +0000 http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/?p=1059#comment-9247 The best part of your post: "let’s be honest, there are a lot of ugly, graying, frizzy and slightly fat men wearing flats who have no problem gaining fame or respect". This discrepancy is the real issue. The best part of your post: “let’s be honest, there are a lot of ugly, graying, frizzy and slightly fat men wearing flats who have no problem gaining fame or respect”.

This discrepancy is the real issue.

]]> By: Deborah http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/beyonce-and-the-true-cost-of-beauty/comment-page-1/#comment-9246 Deborah Thu, 18 Feb 2010 14:59:44 +0000 http://www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com/?p=1059#comment-9246 Could we please clone Carl? Could we please clone Carl?

]]>