Comments on: Top 10 Tips for Sober Entertaining

By: www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com

www.mariasfarmcountrykitchen.com — Tue, 19 Apr 2011 15:27:15 +0000

Top 10 tips for sober entertaining.. Smashing

By: Professor Thomas Lee

Professor Thomas Lee — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 12:32:15 +0000

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By: Omi

Omi — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 17:17:06 +0000

Thanks for this post Mary. It seems to have a struck a volatile nerve for many folks, huh? Well, I suppose that just indicates exactly why these kinds of articles are needed. For many of us, there is so much “emotional charge” around alcohol, whether recovering or alanoning, or none of the above. I think its valuable that the discussion gets raised. That we try to collaboratively come up with new options. They may not be perfect, but hey, for my old black and white thinking, I like having some optoins available to me as my mind gets clearer everyday.

I also think that when we raise controversial issues, its probably best for our own mental health to be prepared for some flack. Not everyone is on the same page. In my perfect world you’d all be on my page. Bu-wha-ha-ha, and do exactly as I say.

But, until then, I appreciate the honest human effort to sort through this stuff. I’d love to see more response posts from other folks who feel proactively inclined to ADD ideas, instead of bash your tone or what you’ve proposed here. If a recovering addict wants to contribute to the discussion, well, I think Bill W would say that’s the precise “cure” their addiction needs – the opportunity to reach out and support other people trying to make healthy decisions. Too often, once we get clean, we think we know everything, which is just another form of grandiosity. Ok, as I write that last sentence with such, ah-hem, knowing-ness, I recommit to go back to my 4th step work this afternoon. *grin*

Peace and thanks

Omi

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 13:24:54 +0000

Mary,

You sound extremely defensive and confrontational. People have a right to express what they feel w/o so much objection to a opinion.
Maria was offering her view and you can take it or leave it.

By: Diane

Diane — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 13:07:48 +0000

I think your tips are awesome! I’ve been with my boyfriend thru his recovery, and it was hard especially at first to go out with friends or go to parties, because you knew alcohol would be there and I wasn’t sure how he’d handle it. But we still wanted and needed social contact with our friends. We plan to have a non-alc wedding. Those guests who can’t or won’t attend a wedding because there’s no wine or booze, can simply stay home, if that’s their preference.

By: Recovering Family

Recovering Family — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 21:48:41 +0000

Props to you Maria! My father was the first of 3 generations to stop the vicious cycle! One day, one step, one chip at a time! Congrats!

By: Maria (farm country kitchen)

Maria (farm country kitchen) — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 21:34:08 +0000

Thank you all for your great thoughts on this! For those of us who are alcoholics it is an all or nothing thing. It was impossible for me to have only one drink. One turned to 4 or more. I saw my kids mimicking me. I saw other family members who never stopped living lives of misery. I wanted to stop and I did — but the world doesn’t make it easy — so we all have to find ways to keep our friendships and family alive in what works for us. Having said that, I still love hamburgers very much!

By: Katie

Katie — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 19:54:19 +0000

Hey thanks for this thoughtful list! I appreciate your perspective and experience. I do have 2 small kids and when other families come over we put on some rockin’ dance music and all have fun watching the toddlers dance.

By: Claude

Claude — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 18:38:39 +0000

I’m a parent. My children(all over 21) watch what I do more than listen to what I say. (sad but true) I rarely have a glass of wine at dinner. I cook with wine, so we usually have a bottle. I have family members who sometimes indulge too much. It is sad and it hurts to see someone that you love loosing control. If you have people in your circle that are struggling to learn how to live without alcohol you are sensative to their struggle. That being said, my children need to see me, as a parent enjoying a glass of wine and behaving myself. They need good role models. I haven’t served liquor at a party in my home in years. But guests are free to bring their own if they want. When guests bring what they like, there is less consumed overall. No one feels funny saying, “No, thanks.”

By: Steph

Steph — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 17:49:44 +0000

Can’t we all just get along? Wow. Or at the very least, be adults. Mary is completely entitled to her opinion; as everyone is. And I’m pretty sure no one said drinking alcohol was a “sin”.