The Winter Woods: Solitude
Sometimes you can feel lonely in a crowd full of people. Other times you might actually be alone. Don’t be afraid. Being able to settle pleasantly into solitude is a sign of true spiritual health. It’s a sign that you aren’t afraid of the secrets inside of you, the biggest secret being that yes, like each of us, you are alone. We come into the world alone; we leave the world alone. Sometimes being alone truly sucks, especially during holidays when it seems like everyone else is having a perfect time, living in perfect love. Solitude is about finding that perfect time and perfect love inside yourself. And when you find that (hint: a walk in the winter woods might help you), you’ll enjoy the rest of the times even more.
I grew up in a house full of people. I was a natural loner. All I needed were books and my grandmother, so being alone was never and is never a problem for me. Being lonely, I never was because she was always around, always. When she passed away, well, let’s say it was the biggest hole I was ever in, and the feeling of being alone and lonely was HUMONGOUS! I hope I shall never feel that way again. Nonetheless, I can still be alone, and feel wonderful with myself, totally at ease and happy. Not too many people can say that! I am grateful for that.
Well, my Grandmother was the only person I felt loved by as a child, she died when I was 16, but I still feel loved by her. And because of that one person making me feel loved, I am able now to have great friends who love me, while also living alone and enjoying my own company. I tell everyone that the Grandparent, Grandchild relationship is one of the best! And loving your own company is the best way to enjoy your life while knowing we come in alone and will go out alone. Life is a gift to be cherished, not to be wasted. Thanks for all your reminders, Maria, sometimes we forget all we have and are.
ALICE, I know the feeling. Although I was loved by my mother and others in the family, grandma’s love was “special” and I still feel that love. It is deep and unmistakable, soothing and comforting, and I feel it constantly. It keeps me and makes me smile, so I pass it on to others, hoping that it can, and will make someone else feel that way too!